"She's Your Partner, Not Your Possession:

Why Valuing Your Woman Matters".

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Dear friend, I want to speak to you about an issue that is crucial for our society - the value of women in relationships.

As a Nigerian woman, I have seen firsthand the harm that can be caused by men who do not respect their partners.

So, let me ask you a question: are you in a relationship right now? Have you ever stopped to consider whether your partner truly values you as a person?

Does he prioritize your needs and interests, or does he always put himself first?

These are critical questions that we must all ask ourselves, and in this article, we will explore why valuing women is so essential for creating healthy and fulfilling relationships.

She's your partner, not a paid possession. Let me start by asking you a question: how did you woo your woman? What made you choose her? Why did you think she said yes?

As a responsible man, value should always be your watchword. If you're in a relationship right now and you're contemplating whether he's fit enough to have a future with or not, the first thing to look out for is how much he values you.

Does he value you at all? Does he put your interests first before his own? Is he always willing to sacrifice for you, does he motivate you, or always talk you down? Is he the type that's always too busy for you?

Does he talk less of you amidst his friends all in the name of jokes? Is he the type that can go a day without hearing from you, all in the name of anger?

If he does all this, baby girl run! These are major red flags that can cause lifetime scars in your life if you ignore them. 

Once a man doesn't value his woman, he sees her as an object, a tool, more like a game, and he becomes the gamer. He begins to control your life! From there, domestic violence sets in.

He sees himself as the boss of you, he'd claim you're his property and so if you don't dance to his tune, or you get him angry, he raises his hands on you.

From hurling insulting words to several slaps on the face, to beating and punching to beating with objects, and before you know it, you're in the hospital just because he paid your bride price, and THAT is where they get it all wrong.

Bride price is not paid to buy the bride. She's priceless, she can't be bought. She's not a slave, even slaves don't deserve to be bought, for we're all equal.

Bride price is meant to show appreciation to the bride and her family for accepting him and also to prove that he's financially capable of taking care of the bride. Only illiterate men will term *bride price* as buying the bride.

To the men out there and the upcoming men, if you don't value your woman, she will never respect you, and your children will never regard you, that's the simple truth.

If you really love a woman, you'd value her, you'd carry her like an egg that she is, you'd prioritize her, you'd show her off anywhere you go, you'd always create time for her even in your tight schedules.

She's your partner, not your property. Please, if you're reading this, don't be the man that subjects his wife to beatings, verbal abuse, and hard labor.

Don't be the kind of man that believes a woman should not be at the top. Don't be the type of husband that doesn't want his wife to progress in her dealings than he is. Lastly, don't be the man that makes a woman shed bitter tears.

God bless!