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Gbemisoke Motunolase's avatar

I was about to say we are twining on the dating life things until you mentioned you've been in a relationship 😭😭 na my own worse pass😅 but one thing I'm learning is that we are not waiting around to be picked by one niccompoop but we would be truly seen and know for who we are not toning it down for anybody

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Ayo's avatar

Reall girllllllll. Real.

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Ayo's avatar

😭 🤎Thanks

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Gold💕's avatar

You’re beautiful ❤️. Some of these men are just dumb fr

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Ayo's avatar

🤎✨

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Okwywrites's avatar

🤣

The rawness of this piece!

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Fatima Mohammed's avatar

I love how you ended this. Sense, standards and the ability to spot red flags are crucial for self-preservation in this hellscape called the heterosexual dating scene. And I hope and trust that if you ever find love, it will be the kind that sees and accepts you wholly; one where you don’t have to water down or contort parts of yourself. Till then, keep being the amazing person you are 🫶🏾

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Ayo's avatar

Thank you 🤎

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Oluwatoyin Caramel Awe's avatar

You did it again!

A beautiful piece from a beautiful girl.

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Ayo's avatar

Thanks ♥️ luv

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aisha 🌟's avatar

Hey girl. I love what your post SO MUCH! Honestly, i think you're better off than most girls: aware of your worth and standards, ACTUALLY able to spot red flagsss!

wishing you all the best in your romantic endeavours girl :)

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MUBARAK's avatar

Heyy Ayo. Thank you for granting my absurd request😂🩷.

As a fellow love-starved twinnie, I know what it's like to be pressured to tone down. It's sad. But then the person that will love you wouldn't need you to change one thing about yourself.

Btw, you are perfectly and beautifully made. Those eyes, omg>>>

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Ayo's avatar

♥️♥️♥️😂😂😂. The eyes riiiii, you see it too. And it was my pleasure.

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OMO IGBO's avatar

Ayooooooo😭❤️

I swear this love thing is luck and jsyk the quality of men out there is a bigger problem than whatever flaws you think you might have, me gan I love you! ❤️

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Ayo's avatar

Awwwwwww. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Thanksssssssssssssss

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Eva dick's avatar

Stay Bold! Bold! Bold!

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Ayo's avatar

Yasss yasss yasss

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Shalini's avatar

What’s it with the society we live in that makes it hard to find men who live right? So shameful to hear your story.

I was not exactly fat and yet I didn’t even understand how many men would have courted me if only I had let them then.

And yet I had to settle with one who was a child while all of them are living happily married!

Society has been deprived of the mind in the name of religion and culture and traditions in spite of reading and loving inspiring radical authors!

I came out of my society and became Christian hoping that would help but after 23 years of marriage and 14 years of being Christian nothing has changed.

Now I had to get out of church as well!

But people like you are why I am on Substack, I want to change the world with my writing one person at a time!

This has to stop here and now!

And it’s got nothing to do with you honey. Blame the society! The patriarchy! The stupidity of it all!

Imagine wasting limited natural resources in the name of war when it can be used conservatively to last generations! The stupidity of it all!

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Rochell's avatar

so relatable 😭♥️

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Ayo's avatar

♥️

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Rochell's avatar

i'm in a desperate need of more articles like this 😭😭😭

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Azeezah's avatar

Ayoooo 🥹

Don't make me cry. I can definitely relate to the older men part. This is so good.

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Ayo's avatar

😭😭😭😭😭Thanks youuuu

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Marie's avatar

“And if love ever finds me, I hope it finds me exactly as I am” Amen to that! Stay wonderfully YOU!

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Ayo's avatar

Thank you 🤎 Marie

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