Moreover, the sad part is mothers just bearing every form of disrespect but teaching their children that their father is a good person is something which breaks my heart. Also, the children sometimes tend to treat their mothers like their fathers which shows the impact parents have on their children.
Ohh you don't want to know how much I really needed to read this.I love my dad so much but I swear I can't seem to ignore his misogyny,I keep wondering if it is not a disservice to me as a feminist,to my mom,to my sisters.
I literally had this conversation with my partner today. I saw the Father's Day post of one of my friends whose dad serially and openly cheats on her mum. Her caption was something along the lines of 'World's best father', and I wondered how that could be when he was a horrible husband. I have other friends who idolise their fathers similarly, even though they are downright horrible to their mothers. It's a problem.
And then these daughters internalise it… thinking that men who treat them like shit are the ones for them because they’ve grown up watching their mothers/wives be treated like shit. Then they start to assume that humanity (and the treatment as so) is something only bestowed upon girls when they’re young. Before their femininity cancels out their humanity.
The worst? Being both a bad father and a bad husband.
Actually
And then become mothers who think it is fine for their husband to not show goodness and kindness to them in as much as they are kind to the children.
Apt.
Also, love your name
Thank youu.
Moreover, the sad part is mothers just bearing every form of disrespect but teaching their children that their father is a good person is something which breaks my heart. Also, the children sometimes tend to treat their mothers like their fathers which shows the impact parents have on their children.
Ohh you don't want to know how much I really needed to read this.I love my dad so much but I swear I can't seem to ignore his misogyny,I keep wondering if it is not a disservice to me as a feminist,to my mom,to my sisters.
♥️
I literally had this conversation with my partner today. I saw the Father's Day post of one of my friends whose dad serially and openly cheats on her mum. Her caption was something along the lines of 'World's best father', and I wondered how that could be when he was a horrible husband. I have other friends who idolise their fathers similarly, even though they are downright horrible to their mothers. It's a problem.
It's a problem that boggles my mind.
I had to sit with the uncomfortability of you being right 😪
That's good, good
And then these daughters internalise it… thinking that men who treat them like shit are the ones for them because they’ve grown up watching their mothers/wives be treated like shit. Then they start to assume that humanity (and the treatment as so) is something only bestowed upon girls when they’re young. Before their femininity cancels out their humanity.
You've put it better than I ever could ❤️